The day I put myself first, without guilt or regret!
Updated: Oct 16, 2019
People with big hearts, that are emphatics of society's woes, have a very difficult time putting themselves first. It's like asking a zebra to take off their stripes, and a leopard to remove it's spots. Having a big heart, being emphatic is not a part of me, it is me. It's who I am. So, when I was told over and over again, "Takisha, take care of your self first". It sounded good, the person meant good however, it was one of those popular sayings that were easier said than done. The day I put my self first, wasn't really a day, it was months and months of choices, hard decisions, tears and loneliness. You see, some people like for you to bend to their will. Some people like for you to appear as if you need them so, I found myself surrounded by those people, not knowing for years that's what I was doing.
When you have allowed people to treat you awful, because you sympathize with them, their cause, and their excuses, you allowed yourself to be put last in your life and in theirs. I found myself at a very hard time in life, when my mother passed away and guess what? The people I had put before myself, wasn't there for me. Not surprising but it was in this time, I decided to do the hard stuff. That's when I realized that, the person, my mother, that told me over and over again, "Takisha, take care of yourself first", was absolutely right! But that puts me back to my question, how do you change who you are? How do you change what makes you, you?
And my answer for myself and maybe for you is don't change who you are but do recognize when you need to stop and take care of yourself; when you need to put your self first! It is in these hard choices, my creativity blossomed. It is in these moments my ideas became goals. It is in these moments of putting myself first, that I have time for my businesses. It is in these moments, I have time for me. You see, the day you decide to put yourself first is not important at all. It's the hard choices you make days, weeks, months, and years later that will matter more.